Relationship Reflection

I grew up in close relationships with my family.My parents are super busy businessperson, and my brother was a shy boy. However, my parents strived to spend at least 2 days a month to bring me and my brother out. Back in the days, we don’t sit home , play videogames and watch tv. My parents would bring us out to bike, go visit other family members or attend community events. My mom and I have a very close relationship like friends. I would share most of my life stories with her and she is always supportive on my decision. My dad is somehow traditional Chinese guy but he treats me and my brother fairly the same. I never feel like I’m a girl because he taught me how to change light bulbs, change tire and etc. He also taught me to be confident and tell me all kind of encouraging and failure stories as a way to teach me life and moral. 

 

My family is always a positive motivation to me as they are always supportive and never use physical punishment.  We always spend quality time at mealtime to talk about our lives. I believe relationship has to be reciprocal. If my parents are trying to learn about my life and be supportive, yet I am not respecting their supports, then we will not have this positive relationship overtime. 

As I grown up, there were times that felt my parents are ignoring or unreasonable because of the difference between our personal values. I learned to respect their values and sometimes think outside of the “my own” box to evaluate if I should follow what they said. To maintain other relationships are similar, friendship, partnership, or work relationships, we need to respect other’s opinions because everyone is a unique individual and their experiences may change their perspective. We do not have to always agree with others, but we need to respect. There will be times that people do not want to develop partnership with you because of various reasons, it could be races or other reason.  I would try to find similarities between us to develop partnership, if that does not work.  I will just try to ignore any conflict if possible, and I try to be neutral because I hate argument. 

My experiences with relationships are always give and take. I believe that we need to give out something to a person and make him/her trust you is the most important aspect to develop a relationship. With trust, it makes a person feel secured to open up any conversation. As an early childhood professional, I always work with families and children come from foreign country or new immigrant who does not speak English or does not share the same language as me. I would spend time to interact with these children and include them into their peer’s play. I would also seek for their talent and acknowledge them more to help them develop their confident. For their families, I would share their child’s day with them, invite them to school event, and try to help them as much as I could. I am a positive person and my experience as an immigrant helped me understand the frustration that minority may have. Therefore, it becomes natural to seek for children’s non-verbal cues when they are not comfortable with something. And when I am scaffolding them, it helps me to develop relationship faster because they know that I will help them when they need help which helps them feel secured.